The fader and the faded

If you count up all the fading experiences in my 1.5 decades of dating, I would say I have been faded on 90% of the time and been guilty of it 10%. I'd like to think I have the confidence and integrity now to tell someone there is no romantic compatibility rather than drop off the earth. I also think fading karma will come back to haunt you tenfold for each time you fade someone. I'm living proof.

Someone I actually faded on about two years ago commented on my fb status today. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Not a bad looking kid, smart, we have the same music tastes and mutual friends. Except I just did not feel that desire, lust, WANT, butterflies etc. but those are all superficial qualities and I am forever asking myself if I should be more open-minded. For a moment I even thought maybe it was bad timing, but I always feel there is a reason for things not working out in the first place.

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I decided to text back today at the urging of Pebbles - networks she says, he might have other friends. Found out he lives about a $20 cab ride away. I decided that this future cost of a ride home, probably after sex and doing the walk of shame is not worth it for a guy that can't pick up the damn phone to make a first date.

Besides the non-caller I also find guys on dating sites that wink at you complete losers. Got one of those in my box today - I don't care how much of a supergod you think you are, delete. Look, by all means I have no problems making a first move and emailing a guy online first, or staring someone down at a bar until he comes over, but a wink online is almost insulting if he wants to initiate contact. It's like saying nudge - you're ok, I'm not that interested but just so you know, you can email me. Is there a button with a middle finger that I can send back?

I don't want no scrub

Last week I met someone that passed my number to his friend. The friend just got in touch for the first time, through text. So not cool! Not only do I believe that a guy should always call the first time, but hello it was 10:45!!

Yes, I need to date more. Yes, I need to get laid. I also understand that beggars can't be choosers but c'mon here! Seriously, I'm so sick of how some guys can be serial texters and never follow through to an actual date. Its almost like we feed it to them.

Oh, the text asked how I like my neighborhood. How the hec am I supposed to answer that in a text?