The fader and the faded

If you count up all the fading experiences in my 1.5 decades of dating, I would say I have been faded on 90% of the time and been guilty of it 10%. I'd like to think I have the confidence and integrity now to tell someone there is no romantic compatibility rather than drop off the earth. I also think fading karma will come back to haunt you tenfold for each time you fade someone. I'm living proof.

Someone I actually faded on about two years ago commented on my fb status today. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Not a bad looking kid, smart, we have the same music tastes and mutual friends. Except I just did not feel that desire, lust, WANT, butterflies etc. but those are all superficial qualities and I am forever asking myself if I should be more open-minded. For a moment I even thought maybe it was bad timing, but I always feel there is a reason for things not working out in the first place.